According to God’s word we were created for relationships, and it is through these relationships that we are supposed to experience great joy and fulfillment. The strongest relationship is supposed to be between a man and a women when they come together in marriage and form a bond that is not meant to be broken. Unfortunately, we see marriages ending at a rate of nearly 50 percent, and the last time I checked it was nearly identical for those within the church. I would never suggest that a struggling marriage cannot be restored, because I absolutely believe they can if there is a real commitment between both parties. However, I am writing this to those of you who are already divorced and do not need another guilt trip. The question is, what are you going to do now? Yes, maybe you have been hurt badly. Yes, maybe you feel like a failure. Maybe you feel like you have let down your children, or even God. But what can you do now so the loss of this relationship and the daily stresses in life do not overwhelm you now. You must make it a priority to take care of yourself. We only have one body, and we know the enormous effects that stress has on our bodies, so we have to understand that we must first be good to ourselves and take care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually. As I have stated before, we know ourselves better than anyone else, so I would suggest that you get alone by yourself and ask the question, “What is the best way for me to take care of myself now?” For some of us this may be taking a daily walk in the morning to clear your head. Others may prefer to join a gym or take yoga classes. Some people may just want to commit to getting together with a good friend for coffee or lunch on a weekly basis. Or for others this may require some counseling sessions in order to get past some grief or depression that you feel is setting in. No matter what it is, love yourself enough and commit to caring for yourself so you can then love and care for others in the future.
You must make it a priority to take care of yourself