Have you ever thought about the relationship that you have with yourself? Is it a good relationship? Is it bad, or possibly indifferent? It makes sense to me that you would want a good, or even great relationship with yourself, especially given the fact that we are constantly around. Even if we really wanted, we cannot simply snap a finger and just get away from ourselves.
I would like to share an illustrative story that I recently heard from a pastor, and it goes something like this: There was an attractive young woman who went on a dinner date with a man, and by all accounts it went very well. He was tall and handsome, and an all around perfect gentleman who even opened doors for her. At the end of the date they both shared how they both enjoyed the evening and would like to go on another date in the near future. The next day the young woman was so excited she just had to call her closest friend and share how great the date was. After about 10 minutes of gushing to her friend about how great he was, she asked her friend if she thought she was gonna get a call from him in the next few days to set up their second date. Her friend proceeded to tell her “well, I don’t know if you should expect a call from him at all, I mean if you really think about it why would he. You need to be more realistic, I mean what do you really have to offer that is so great. You have a dead-end job, drive around a 20 year old car that is on its last legs, and admit it, you really need to drop about 30 pounds.” Her “close friend” continued, “I have known you since we were children, and you really are not as fun as you think you are. Oh, and those clothes that you are wearing, weren’t those in style like 5 years ago or something. So no, I do not think he is going to ever call you back for a second date.” Wow. I’m sure you are thinking with friends like that, who needs enemies. But if you think about it, we are all guilty at times of speaking to ourselves this way. And I think that is a pretty horrible friend.
The definition of friend is; a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard; a person who gives assistance, a supporter, and someone who is not hostile. Our relationships with others is so important, but I believe that the relationship that we have with ourselves is even greater. I would like to list 4 actions below that I believe you should start right away so you can begin to be your own best friend.