I think most of us understand what the phrase “garbage in, garbage out” means. Unfortunately, many of us seem to live our lives as though it does not really pertain to us. Maybe some us say to ourselves “oh I can handle it,” or “it won’t affect me.” Maybe others are simply unaware of the garbage we are putting into our minds.
Beyond the music we listen to, the television shows we watch, or even the people we spend the most time with, we must consider how our own self talk plays a very important role in what we are filling our minds up with. We can either build ourselves up, or tear ourselves down with the conversations we have with ourselves every day.
I recently had an “aha” moment when I became aware that the term “hope” was actually harming me when I used it in some of my own self talk. Yeah, I know, that sounds a little strange. How can using the word hope be a bad thing when we use it in our own self-talk. Don’t get me wrong, I think that hope is a very important thing to have. I personally have hope for many things, and it can be a very encouraging word. However, for some reason I felt a little discouraged when I caught myself using the word “hope” in my self-talk. “How can that be” I thought. When I considered it further, I concluded that when I heard myself say “hope” I perceived it to be some sort of wishful thought, a pipe dream, or something completely out of my control. Granted, many things in life are out of our control, however there are some actions that we can take that can put us in a better position of receiving a good outcome. And I believed that taking that one small action of replacing the word “hope” with something like “anticipate” or “envision” was simply a better term for me to use. I made this very small change because I believe it can and will make a positive difference in my own life.
How about you? Is it possible that you are using words in your self-talk that are hurting you. Or maybe, like me, you should be using a different word or phrase that is simply more well suited and optimistic to you personally. I would like to encourage everyone to take the time and really consider all the words and phrases that you use in your self-talk to determine how it makes you feel and what is best for you.