Life is not perfect and we all know it. Most of us do not live our lives with that realization however. When something does not go as planned we say things like "how could this have happened", or "I had it all under control until... ". We get upset, disappointed, or possibly angry. This disappointment or anger could be directed at an acquaintance, a total stranger, or even ourselves. Maybe you have no idea where to direct these feelings. Take for example your brand new $50,000 car that was scratched in the parking lot. You don't know exactly how it may have happened or who may have been involved, so who do you get angry at. What do you do with these feelings? Maybe you have failed to accomplish a project in a specific time frame, and now you have feelings of complete incompetence. It simply did not go as you had planned. What do you do? Do you crawl into a hole and never attempt similar projects again? Like I said, life is not perfect.
I have been recently doing some remodel work at the home we will be moving back into soon. Okay, maybe I have mostly been watching the contractors do the work. Of course it is pretty normal for my wife and I to want the remodel to come out just "perfect", right. However, I was recently upset and disappointed by something I saw in the house. The painter did a fantastic job, and everything was looking good with the tile work in the bathrooms, but as I was getting ready to leave the house I stood in the living room and noticed the top part of the wall where it meets the ceiling by the entryway was noticeably not square. Mind you, this is not an area that was part of the remodel. I said to myself "you've got to be kidding me, we might as well just tear this whole house down and start from scratch". Yes, I know that sounds a little over dramatic, but that is actually how I felt at first. After a few seconds I was able to somehow say to myself "that's okay, it gives the house character". I do not know exactly how I was able to change my thoughts and attitude about the situation so quickly, but it probably had to do with the fact that tearing the house down was not an option. However, I can tell you that I went home and slept very well that night. How about you? What is that imperfection that has you anxious and keeps you up at night?
I do not want anyone to misunderstand what I am saying here. When I am promoting the idea of “peace with imperfection,” I am not saying we should not strive to be our best or put forth our best efforts to have our desired outcomes. I am simply asking, what do we do when life disappoints and something happens that is simply out of your control?
I would like to offer three suggestions below that I hope can have a positive impact on your life when things don’t go as planned and you may be struggling to find your “peace with imperfection.”